Wedding planning is tough! We only got engaged in January whilst on an amazing snowy holiday in Austria but since then I feel like I’ve had a constant battle with my heart, my head and my wallet. It’s something that as an imaginative little girl I always thought I’d get married in an amazing picturesque venue, we’d have 100+ guests of wonderful family and friends, an open bar and one hell of a party after we’d said our ‘I do’s’ with a hog roast and sparklers as we danced through the night…
In reality it’s a real shame because it’s just not that easy and at the age of 25 I’m still learning that I can’t always have things exactly how I’d always dreamt they would be. I always knew the big things in life were expensive – a house, getting married and having children but I guess I just assumed that we’d be ok and they’d just happen. The saying ‘what will be, will be‘ is something that I’m not very good at coping with, and unfortunately as a massive planner I’m still struggling with not having total control of things.
We’ve been wedding planning for a little while now and it always leaves me disappointed. Not disappointed because I can’t find anywhere I’d want to have our special day, but disappointed because we just can’t afford the fancy rustic converted barn style wedding I’ve always wanted. We’d planned to save a lot over the next 2 years and have our wedding early 2018, but even then we’d be pushing it and wouldn’t be able to have the honeymoon we’d ideally like. Sure, we could save more or borrow some, but I’m not sure we’re prepared to have all the stress that comes along with that. We’ve looked into putting the wedding back a bit so we’d have longer to save but again, I’m not sure I’d want to do that. And then, there’s another big factor which is that I have a rather complicated family situation which could make our plans a little more difficult, cause lots of anxieties on my half and then that leaves me thinking “is it all worth it?“. Not the getting married part, but the whole making particular choices to ensure that our guests enjoy it. Ultimately, a wedding is supposed to be about you as a couple so is it worth spending £3000+ on food, or X amount on rooms?
Never in my life did I ever think I’d come to this conclusion, my best friend Michelle had always said that she’d elope but instead she had a church wedding here in the UK and now me, miss ‘always wanted a mermaid style wedding dress and barn conversion UK venue‘ is leaning more and more towards getting married abroad, and with no guests! It’s a big decision, but the more and more we think about it, the more it makes sense.
Would you ever think about getting married abroad? If you’re married, what was your wedding like?
(Image courtesy of Fairmont Orchid Hotel)